Dear Harlan:

Why do guys have to be so stupid? Why can’t guys just say what they want instead of playing all these stupid games? My problem is that I really like this guy, and he sends me signals that he likes me too. But he hasn’t made a move to tell me if we are together or if he just wants to get into my pants. His friend tells me not to worry, but how can I not worry if he won’t tell me what he wants? And then he talks about how all these other girls are hot and stuff, right in front of me. When I talk to him about it, he gets mad. I just want him to let me know what’s going on.

I’ve asked him, and he keeps telling me to relax and not to worry about it. TELL ME WHAT IS GOING ON, AND THEN I CAN RELAX! I don’t care what the answer is. I just want to know so I don’t waste my time and energy. And I don’t just want to be “bed buddies.” I want an actual relationship. I’m tired of stupid games.

–In No Mood

Dear In No Mood:

It’s like ordering a pizza and waiting days for it to arrive.

Why stand around waiting for a guy who can’t deliver what you want? If he leaves you hungry for answers, try someone else. If he won’t tell you one way or the other way, then go the other way. Just don’t stand around waiting for him to define the relationship. You’re only setting yourself up for the next round of this game. Stop playing his game, and stop waiting around for answers.

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