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URT Hurts and What I've Learned Through Theatre

I'm an actor. No, that's not me bragging or trying to get attention. That's what I do. I love acting and performing. I need that experience just like I need love and people who love me. What both of these things have in common is the Universal Rejection Truth (URT) as you all have read in the book.

The dating world, just like theatre is full of rejection. People will want you and people will reject you. Pretty simple. What sucks though is when everything seems right. "I'm perfect for that role (or that person). I can play that part (I would be great for him and him for me. We have so much in common)...etc."

So what happens when I don't get the part I auditioned for (don't get that guy I've been thinking about ever since he said I have beautiful eyes)? Move on. There will always be other auditions/options/opportunities/choices. I know but instead I tend to get angry and blame them. "They made a huge mistake. I'm better than that person they chose for the part (or chose as their girlfriend)." This is where you can begin to think (URT) hurts and sucks.

What I've learned though through theatre and URT is acceptance. Accepting acceptance isn't easy especially when our plans and our ways of thinking are inconvenienced by others. When I get angry at those who've rejected me, I'm not allowing them to think as they want therefore I'm not allowing myself to think as I want. I'm hanging onto to something instead of looking forward. When I let go, I'm freeing my mind and freeing myself. What does "free" mean? Peace maybe? Peace of mind? The freedom to think about what I want and who I want to work with (be with)? Just something I was thinking about today.

FYI I've never been much into blogging. Maybe I should just stick to food blogs?

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Comment by Harlan Cohen on July 16, 2012 at 11:08am

Stick to blogging.  I enjoy your writing.  For anyone unfamiliar with the URT, here's a link to an audio book excerpt: http://bit.ly/OAnmTn

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