Dear Harlan:

I am 24, beautiful, successful and independent, and my love life is floundering and has been for quite some time. I can't seem to find a lasting relationship.

Dear Harlan:

My ex-boyfriend is confusing me to no end. If a man stops a relationship for no obvious reason, then why would he try to get back together with me again out of the blue? I find this especially difficult because there was no closure the first time. As a guy, can you help me shed some light on men?…

Dear Harlan:

What exactly do girls look for in a guy? Do they all just concentrate on looks, or do they value personality and intelligence? Which one is more important?

–Looking for a…

Dear Harlan:

Why do guys have to be so stupid? Why can’t guys just say what they want instead of playing all these stupid games? My problem is that I really like this guy, and he sends me signals that he likes me too. But he hasn’t made a move to tell me if we are together or if he just wants to get into my pants. His…

Dear Harlan:

I can't seem to move past this girl I recently split up with. I'm someone who puts all my effort into a relationship, and she treated me like an option. I know she isn't the right girl for me, but for some reason I focus on the potential she has to be a good girlfriend, rather than focusing on how she treated…

Dear Harlan:

There is a man in my workplace who I find myself attracted to. I don’t believe in love at first sight, but after the third or fourth time talking to him, I discovered that he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. At work, he always comes by to talk to me for a few minutes, looks me in the eyes,…

Dear Harlan:

I’ve been with my boyfriend on and off for two and a half years. Everything goes well for a few months, and then he gets bored of me. Now he says I don’t talk on the phone. He also says I need to start coming up with ideas, because he always has them. What next?…

Dear Harlan:

I have a split identity when relating to women. I want to be the perfect nice guy, but lately, I’m torn. This past year, I was dating two girls at once. Both were beautiful and motivated, and I decided not to choose. One moved away, and the other relationship fizzled out after five months. Now I’m seeing a…

Dear Harlan:

I have a loving relationship with a boyfriend of two years. I am almost certain that I will marry him someday, but I find one of his good friends very sexually attractive. I find myself often fantasizing about his best friend when I am with my boyfriend. I would never act on my feelings toward him. I love my…

Dear Harlan:

I'm one of the most straight-laced people I know. I realize this makes people's expectations of me higher. I recently did something that would shatter those expectations. For a two-month period, I was having phone sex with a guy I met on a chat site. (I didn't send any dirty pics, so I don't have to worry about…

Hey Harlan:

My boyfriend goes to school in Florida and I only see him during long breaks. I haven't seen him since before Christmas. My problem is that he told me that he is going to the military ball with a girl who he says he is just friends with, but I know that she gave him oral sex on the tennis court before we started…

Dear Harlan:

I had a girlfriend in high school for a little over a year. I've dated since then, but haven't found a new girlfriend. I'm now in my third year in college. I met a girl and talked to her for about five weeks before taking her on a date. She mentioned that she had never been in a relationship. A couple days…

Dear Harlan:

I'm a 62-year-old divorced male. I've been alone for 12 years since the divorce from my wife. The older I get, the more I feel it would be nice to have a girlfriend. But there are several obstacles involved. I'm retired, on a fixed income, rent a small apartment, have health issues and have a hard time driving…

Dear Harlan:

How upfront can a girl be when asking a guy out on a date or to hang out? Are we supposed to wait for him to ask us out?

– Asking…

Dear Harlan:

I met a lovely teller at my local bank.  We exchanged pleasantries, and I determined that we have many of the same interests. I decided to leave a note for the woman expressing my interest in the bank’s night-deposit box (to avoid other tellers’ gawking). The very next day the bank’s manager telephoned me and…

Dear Harlan:

I like a guy, and I guess that he likes me back. So, we had sex. This guy has a girlfriend, but he always tries to convince me that I mean a lot to him. My best friend talked to him and asked him, what does he want from me? Will he ask me to be his girlfriend? His answer was totally negative. He said that he…

Dear Harlan:

I followed your advice and finally decided to take a risk and look for a date at a bar one night. It was a disaster.  Some background information: I HATE my nose, but yet I was going up to people as if I was the most beautiful girl in the world. I’m not, clearly. Anyway, some guy offered to buy me a drink. We…

Hello any and everyone!

As we all know, the Universal Rejection Truth is the Getting Naked Experiment's bread and butter. Cliff Notes Version for all you new-comers: There are MILLIONS of people that do not want to be with you. There are, however, THOUSANDS of people that do. Of those thousands, you only need ONE. So stop focusing on those millions, and starting talking to those thousands. All up to speed? Perfect.

So I've been doing some serious experimenting with the URT…