Dear Harlan:

What exactly do girls look for in a guy? Do they all just concentrate on looks, or do they value personality and intelligence? Which one is more important?

–Looking for a…

Dear Harlan:

I have a split identity when relating to women. I want to be the perfect nice guy, but lately, I’m torn. This past year, I was dating two girls at once. Both were beautiful and motivated, and I decided not to choose. One moved away, and the other relationship fizzled out after five months. Now I’m seeing a…

Dear Harlan:

I have a loving relationship with a boyfriend of two years. I am almost certain that I will marry him someday, but I find one of his good friends very sexually attractive. I find myself often fantasizing about his best friend when I am with my boyfriend. I would never act on my feelings toward him. I love my…

Dear Harlan:

Is it immature of me to unfriend an ex on Facebook? We said we'd be friends, and I know that a lot of couples who break up say that to each other, but I don't know if it's something that could ever work. The breakup didn't happen because of anything terrible either of us did. We both just had different views on…

Dear Harlan:

I like a guy, and I guess that he likes me back. So, we had sex. This guy has a girlfriend, but he always tries to convince me that I mean a lot to him. My best friend talked to him and asked him, what does he want from me? Will he ask me to be his girlfriend? His answer was totally negative. He said that he…

Dear Harlan:

Why are some guys becoming shy, while others are overly cocky? The good guys are too quiet, and the cocky ones are too busy talking a big game. How can I find one of the good ones?…

Dear Harlan:

I am a 22-year-old female who graduated college last year. I am a year into my first serious and sexually active relationship. My boyfriend is 22, and I’m also his first serious relationship and sexual experience. I would like to know if it is love. We say we love each other. However, I’ve been infatuated…

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Hi Harlan:

I'm getting over a recent breakup. We were dating for a year and half, and he was a year younger than me. This is my first year away at school, and he decided one day to tell me that this is done and he had fallen out of love with me. Just like that. I definitely don't think that I'm unattractive. I'm a signed…

Dear Harlan:

Everyone told me not to sleep with guys right off the bat. Well, guess what? I always sleep with guys right off the bat, even though I know what the outcome will be. This time, a guy and I hung out afterward and continued on the unknown path. Finally, I got to the point where I asked, "Where is this heading?"…

Dear Harlan:

I'm in a fantastic relationship with someone I've recently realized I truly love. We've been together for a little more than a year. About a month ago, in a moment of pure weakness and confusion, I kissed someone else. I instantly felt disgusted and repulsed by what I had done, and I left the situation. I have…

Dear Harlan:

I'm a freshman at college this year and I recently got involved with a guy who also is a freshman. We have a lot in common, we get along great, and I think I've fallen in love with him. The only problem is that he has a girlfriend back home, whom he claims to be "madly in love" with. He's…

Dear Harlan:

How do you keep a guy interested when you're not planning to have sex? I don't want to have sex with him because that has ruined other relationships and friendships in the past. Any suggestions on how to move slowly?…

Hi Harlan:

I met "P" at my best friend's wedding. I'm 26, and he is 37. He called after the wedding, and we started dating and doing fun things together. I wanted to go to a New Year's party – dinner, hear a band – that happened to be held at a major hotel downtown. It was great except for the guy I was with! He got very…

Dear Harlan:

I met a girl through some friends and we had a great conversation. She gave me her number. I want to call, but don't know how long I should wait to call or text a girl after I get her number. I don't want to get in touch too soon, but I don't want to wait too long. What's the right amount of time?…

Dear Harlan:

I'm interested in dating white men and have some questions. How does a black girl approach a white guy? What if he's not interested in me? How do you feel about interracial dating?

–Looking for…

Dear Harlan:

I have just gotten out of a serious relationship and I'm still a wreck over it after three months. It doesn't show signs of getting any better. I know I am supposed to forget about her and move on, but I just don't see women the same way I saw her. She was my first real girlfriend and the first person not in my family to…

My first Getting Naked Report is a big one. It's not as much about finding love (found it) as it is about being emotional vulnerable. And here I go... My wife is 14 weeks pregnant. We just started sharing the news last week. There are so many risks involved with having another child. There’s pregnancy, labor, delivery, the baby, finances, space, work, marriage, being the best father to my other kids, and being the best husband to my wife. I'm excited, scared, an  focused.  I've been working…

Dear Harlan:

I've been dating a man for the better part of nine months. I say "better part" because I have broken things off a couple of times because he refuses to introduce me to or allow me around the kids. He says that it is my fault that he doesn't want to introduce me to them. The boys are 4 and 7, and I understand…