Dear Harlan:

I met a girl on the Internet and we clicked immediately. We never officially dated, but we got very flirty, talked a ton and were sexual as well. It was as if we were in a relationship. We talked about how we were perfect for each other, aside from the fact that we lived on opposite sides of the country. We…

Dear Harlan:

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We started dating in high school, and he's in his first year of college, while I'm wrapping up school to move on to university. He's struggled with depression for years, and consistently comes to me for consolation. During the past three weeks, pressure from…

Dear Harlan:

Should I talk to my ex when she texts and tells me she's mad at her current boyfriend? I'm not sure why she thinks that I'm interested in her problems. I don't want to be the one to console her when she's unhappy with him. Please help.…

Dear Harlan:

I recently started dating a guy. I had a rough time after breaking up with my last boyfriend of four years and simultaneously adjusting to college life, so I am happy to have found someone who makes me smile, laugh, and feel good and happy. He just recently broke up with his last girlfriend (about a month and a…

Dear Harlan:

Why do guys like to share all of their sexual experiences with their friends? I'd like to get closer to a guy I'm dating, but I'm not looking to be tomorrow's headlines. It doesn't seem like any guy can keep his private life private. Help!…

Dear Harlan:

I am going to college in the fall. I am confused about having sex. I have not had vaginal sex yet, and I don't know if I should start. I have had a girlfriend for longer than a year, and I have learned that I can still have a great relationship without it and still be connected…

Dear Harlan:

I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He is a guy who always has had a very hard life -- no support from his parents, works full-time, always dealing with the struggles of life. He recently failed a few exams and has fallen into a depressed state. He already sees a psychologist, but feels like his life is over. On the other hand, I'm excited…

Dear Harlan:

I have a major problem involving love (well, more "like"). I met this guy about a week ago through a friend, and we have pretty much hung out together with a few other friends every night since then. I have fallen hard for him. Everything about him just makes me feel like he could be the one. The problem is the…

Dear Harlan:

My boyfriend and I recently broke up and I don't know what to do. We're both seniors in high school. Most of our conversations took place online, even though we go to the same school. To be honest, he…

Dear Harlan:

I'm going to be a college freshman in the fall. I'm looking forward to meeting new people and having a fresh start. I just learned that my bitter ex from a recent relationship is going to live on the same floor as me. How do I handle this? I don't want things to be awkward. I don't have hard feelings toward…

Dear Harlan:

My ex and I recently had a big blowout and broke up. Now that it's over, I guess my biggest question is, how do you get back to being friends after going through a relationship? Are there any rules? Steps? Processes? Both of us have decided to give each other some space, try to be open and honest, and maybe…

Dear Harlan:

I'm having a hard time understanding guys lately. Why do boys have such a hard time opening up and expressing themselves? Why do they have such a hard time opening up to the person they care about the most, and then eventually push her away? This seems to be happening to me on a regular basis.…

After posting some pictures of newly printed Naked Dating Training Thongs a few people have asked me, Why Naked Dating Thongs?  …

Dear Harlan:

Next year, I will be attending college for the first time. I’ve been in a relationship with this girl for about six months, and she’ll be attending the same school. We’ve been good friends since our freshman year. Before we started dating, she used to date my best friend, but I eventually discovered that he was…

Dear Harlan:

I met a girl on the Internet and we clicked immediately. We never officially dated, but we got very flirty, talked a ton and were sexual as well. It was as if we were in a relationship. We talked about how we were perfect for each other, aside from the fact that we lived on opposite sides of the country. We…

Dear Harlan:

Last year, I became involved with a guy at my school. At first I had a crush on him, and let him take my virginity (I felt like I was the only 19-year-old virgin left). But as I kept sleeping with him, I realized I…

Dear Harlan:

I'm a 20-year-old female who has been in a relationship for about two years. At first, I thought I really liked this guy. Then, he just got annoying. So I've been trying to break up with him for months now, but every time he says he's going to commit suicide. But it gets worse. He abuses me. Every day when I…

Dear Harlan:

Any tips for moving on from a year-and-a-half-long college relationship? My girlfriend ended it because the distance between us over breaks was too much. Also, we both will be graduating next year, but there is no guarantee we'll end up in the same city or even remotely close to each other. I…